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My fiance and i are both virgins and i’m to nervous to even talk to him about the honeymoon. Do i have to wear lingerie? Help!
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Wouldn’t hurt to pack; but don’t bet on having time to put on.
Honestly I’m going through the same thing right now, but my fiancee and I have already talked about it. You have to be open and honest, its bound to happen. It’ll be uncomfortable, but you love the person and that will go away.
You dont have to wear lingerie, but it is nice for the man’s visual. It should be a night you should not forget, don’t be nervous about discussing anything with your husband. Have fun and relax.
GET BUSY!! heck yea bring lingerie it makes it more fun!! dont be nervous!!!
You don’t have to wear lingerie… just relax and things will happen naturally.
well of corse dont think she can do …you know what im saying right it starts with a s ya so mabye pool oir somehting
Just relax, and enjoy yourselves, you’ll be fine.
use lubrication, it hurts.
you don’t have to, but it can be fun. Have you tried looking around, you don’t have to get trampy stuff. They make very nice things, especially for the wedding night. I remember Victoria’s Secret used to have a white night gown and robe that was very nice and could be used for the “big” night.
Have a great time and relax.
if u r nervous then u guys should definitely discuss but just relax i promise u u’ll have fun!
I would wait on the lingerie so you could use it to spice things up in the years to come…He’s going to be so psyched you won’t even need it… That doesn’t mean wear you rattiest pair of panties… get cute little boy shorts, and a matching tank or something…comfortable yet totally cute…
Enjoy and have fun!
Don’t be nervous, once you dive in, you are going to wonder why you waited
well yes you should wear lingerie….. it will turn him on and bring his anticipation up and he will want you even more making you and him feel more confident with each other. and if you might not like your body for more fun you should bim the lights down abit…. dont worry you will do fine
First of all, I think the fact that both of you are virgins is great! Congratulations on your marriage.
Okay, so try and talk about this with your fiance some more. If it’s still uncomfortable because you don’t wear lingerie regularly, then maybe you shouldn’t worry too much about it now. Eventually, when both of you are more comfortable with eachother, it’ll happen and not be so awkward.
Hope that helps, and Congratulations again!
How well do you know each other?
If you’re nervous, then maybe not so well when it comes to private things.
So plan the first evening and night of the honeymoon together with him NOW.
Get it down on paper.
Give each other time to adjust to the new intimacy. Decide if you want to watch, or not. How much light you feel you want. If you want music, or drink, or chocolates. Lots of talk, or silence.
You should make hugging and caressing each other a big big part of the evening. Time it!! Ten minutes hugging. Ten minutes caressing. Massage if you think that sounds nice.
Don’t worry about things going wrong – if he ejaculates early – so what? He’s excited. Give him some more hugging and caressing and he’ll be ready again. Same thing if you feel nervous. Give it time and loving and it’ll work.
When it finally happens, it should feel right, and if you take your time and give each other lots of encouragement and smiles and stroking, it won’t only feel right but it should feel the only natural thing to do.
As for lingerie, you won’t need it
no wear silky thongs….. guys like that sort of stuff
Congratulations on your mutual decision to save yourselves for marriage. Now just relax and go slowly. There are no rules; just be tender and loving and kind and gentle. You don’t HAVE to wear lingerie, but you might find it will actually help you both if you start off wearing something soft and silky! Blessings to you both…
you dont have to do any thing that will make you nerves. the best advice is to try to stay relaxed, dont get all worked up about it.
Sweetie, let nature take it’s course. 9 times out of 10 the night of the wedding both of you will be SOOO tired nothing will happen anyway. BUT the next day….nature will kick in. Don’t hold back, let your body and his tell you what to do and not to do.
Best of luck.
no u dont have to and relax that is the best advice anyone can give u and it doesnt have to happen that night if u dont want it to. just enjoy each others compnay and things will happen with out you having to plan how it will go. good luck. and congrats
Only do what you feel comfortable with. Don’t let him hang the sheet out the window after, as some cultures do.
Have a good talk with your mom or an auntie before your wedding!
You probably won’t need lingerie on your wedding night, but it could be nice to pack for the honeymoon. I have included a link to a question I answered awhile ago, that you may find useful. Remember that sex is normal and natural, and you should have NO shame in talking to your fiancee/soon to be husband about sex. Sex between spouse’s is not only acceptable it is highly encouraged.
I’m sure he is as nervous as you are and probably more so. If your mature enuf to get married then you should be able to talk to him about it. He probably wants to talk to and doesnt know how to bring up the subject. You do not have to wear lingerie, but it would be sexier and men are very visual. You can by a lace nightie that falls a few inches above your knee if you just too embarrassed to wear something short or you can even get a long nightgown with a matching penoir in silk or lace. I would suggest you buy some lubrication because your first time to have sex will hurt at least a little bit, talk to him about lost of foreplay first so that you are both more in the mood and your body begins to lubricate itself.
First of all… I’m glad to see that there are still people like you and your fiancee still left in this world.
Now… you do need to talk to him about the honeymoon. You will both be very nervous on that night but just let things prgress naturally. You do not have to wear lingerie unless you want to, you don;t even have to have sex that night if you don’t want to. Have fun being with each other and your love for each other will make everything happen. As far as the your first time goes… be open and honest with each other about what feels good and what doesn’t. Also, talk to each other about things that you would like to try. There are many, many books about sex (from educational to explicit) that you could buy that will explain everything, and many of them include pictures and detailed instructions on how to perform certain positions/sexual acts.
Good luck on your wedding (don’t worry about what happens afterwards!)
lol, know how it feels,, you can wear lingerie if you want, but just relax, and be happy.
you should talk to him about what he thinks. You don’t have to wear trampy lingerie but a nice negligee would be good long gown with sheer robe. Bring some KY or other lubricant it will help they have different ones at Spencer’s in the malls. Just relax and enjoy your time together.
u don’t have to wear lingerie. it won’t be on very long. good luck!
1) talk with your guy!
2) lingerie is ok but i wouldnt advise it at first cuz it might get him over excited if its his 1st time too.
3) lubracate is a good ideal…
4) dont worry and relax.
5) there are sex positions for virgins that make it easier and less painful.
6) you’ll enjoy it dont worry.
7) talk while your doing it. gide him and do it slowly.
best of luck to you both!